Am I that Guy?
As my day of birth draws nigh, I have been busy.
I’ve been busy at church, busy at work, busy with family and busy trying to find a girl I’d like to date.
Oh, and I’m looking at getting a few more pinball machines.
This info should make sense, I hope.
So Monday I hung out with Michael(little bro) and Matt(little bro’s friend). My parked truck gets hit.
Tuesday, I’m working on Work stuff. I’m working hard. I realize it’s 7:30. As I walk out the door of work, I realized that I had promised a girl in my ward that we could watch Alias at my house at 7. My little brother needed my attention, so I had to go pick him up. It was almost 8 before I made it back to my house. I called her up, got her answering machine and asked her what day we were supposed to meet up (I hadn’t written it down) and when, and if it was that night, I was sorry.
About 9:30 I got a voice mail from her saying “If you want to talk to me, call me back”.
I called her back, and she basically said “Yeah it was tonight”, and then when I offered to do the TV watching Wednesday, she said “I understand that you are busy, we don’t have to do it.”
After talking a bit, she decided to come over Wens night. I then proceeded to move everything I had planned for Wednesday over to Thursday. I had planned on stopping at the Local Pinball operator’s place, make an offer on some manuals, and see if he was going to sell me the three pins I wanted. He agreed to do that Thursday. Along with my other plans. I say this all, only because my life seems very busy right now. VERY BUSY.
So, as I was reading (in my huge amounts of spare time) the insightful blogs of some Female Mormon Bloggers (KellyM, Celibate in the City (JL), Someday Saint (Crystal)
and White Skinned Goddess(Katie)) I realized that they all had the same complaint. Guys that 1) were flaky and 2) were lukewarm with them.
I realized I was being that Guy. I have decided to improve myself.
No matter what happens this girl deserves to be treated with respect and treated well (by me). It doesn’t matter if you are female or male. Friendships are something that will enrich my life for years to come.
When it comes to how busy I am, I just don’t have the time to not treat people with the respect that they deserve. In the Eternal view of time, I can wait. I can wait on the games, I can push work out. Those won’t matter, my relationship with my Savior, my family and my friends are what matters.
End of Story
Wow, if I were her and your excuse for making me feel like a retard for showing up to your house for an unofficial TV date was that you “lost track of time” I would be prone to “loose track of your number.” I don’t have much tolerance for unthoughtfulness. (this was meant in a kind way, not quite so harsh as it came off sounding)
Yeah, I know. Part of the steps to recovery, is to admit you have a problem, no?
I could come up with a bunch of excuses (which, alas, I pretty much did) But when it comes down to it, I was in the wrong. No if ands or buts.
I’m attempting to reconcile the problem, and do good by her. Beyond that, it’s pretty much up to her.
I do stupid guy stuff, a lot of the time š
Unless it were a habitual thing, I’d be pretty understanding.
Things happen.
And girls worth your time would recognize that.
If you are interested in her, then you should definitely nix that kind of behavior. It tells her, and makes her feel, that you don’t like her enough to bother ‘keeping track of time’. She’s thinking: If he really liked me he would be excited to see me and watching the clock and would not want to give me a bad impression of him by being late. …It’s true isn’t it?
From the sound of her voicemail message, she’s picked up on your lack of excitement and will probably pull the plug on you soon if you don’t pick it up.
Well, that’s part of the problem. I like being around this girl. I can tease her (within reason), and have a somewhat fun time. The only thing is that she is 1) Very Molly (and I’m not the coresponding Peter P.) and 2) Her dad has been a Bishop/Stake President/Mission President. She measures guys by her dad. I don’t know that I would ever meet up to those standards.
I enjoy being her friend, and maybe we will just have a DTR (ech) sometime down the road to talk about it.
Very insightful!
Very insightful!
I personally wouldn’t have been offended. First off, you were at work, second it was a television show. But, I guess that others have spoken the opposite way. You definitely made an effort to fix it!