There’s nothing like the wonderful sensation of the dough squishing in your teeth. The sugar and stick of butter flowing through your system.
Oh, and if you are lucky, the egg in the dough doesn’t kill you.
I digress.
It looks like the “Independent Online Forum” was mentioned for a second time on Single Thought. Of course, I won’t mention who writes the article. Needless to say, I found the replies humorous, and I have to throw in my two cents.
(Just for the record, I like cookies cooked or uncooked )
I don’t want to sound mean, but it was interesting to me that the most (if not all) the negative comments about young marriages and receptions were from single people! Why are they criticizing those who are married — I mean, getting married is a good thing, right? Such cynical attitudes don’t help someone who is single anyway!
All I have to say is DUURRRR.
This is something that I have to deal with! This is something that is in the forefront of my thinking all the time. You know what? It’s hard not to become obsessed about it! I believe it’s just human nature to concentrate on what you are striving to achieve. When I get married, it’s going to be how I can be a better Husband, when I have kids, it will be on raising them. I’m sure I’ll think some other parents are doing a bad job. I’ll judge (which one shouldn’t do, but it’s hard), but that’s human nature.
This is where “Smug Marrieds” make me roll my eyes so violently into the back of my head that they flip. At the end of the day, if getting married young is good for you, it’s good for you. I’ve said it before though, I think not enough courtship goes on before the marriage, because our society is one of insta-gratification.
Courtship is vital. I’ll always believe that.
As for the receptions:
One wrathful reader went so far as to suggest that getting married later is all part of an evil plan to destroy the family.
Commence eye rolling *NOW*. Alas, not all of us get married right away. For those who are striving for the goal at the end of the tunnel, it doesn’t matter how long it takes.
It doesn’t make you any less of a person.
Now I give you the background because while I feel that the ‘present grab’ that exists in the Mormon culture (at receptions) is repulsive .
….
Just because we were relatively young (20 and 22), why wait if you know it is right?
First part: I don’t find it repulsive, I just find it *Tacky*
Second part: You know what, it goes back to what I said before. COURTSHIP. If you feel that you know someone after six months, then that’s fine. Everyone has different experiences. I just don’t see this as a big race. Does one get more blessings if you make it to the finish line faster? If it’s right for you, then go for it, if not, well, you aren’t breaking any commandments.
People invited to wedding receptions need to stop thinking of what they are going to get out of it and more about what they can contribute to it.
Oh, I understand, and I give gifts and I for the most part, enjoy the receptions I attend, because I know the Bride and Groom.
The underlining gripe for me (back in the original rant) is that my time is precious. I have a job, I have an extremely busy church calling, I have a girl, I have chores, I have shopping. My time is spread thin. My time is a valuable commodity. I have to choose what I will devote my time to. If the reception is just attempt to get material goods (aka, I hardly know the person I’m getting the invite from, and 15 registry cards fall out), then I may send something, but I’m going to prioritize my time elsewhere.
Then Erin & Juli said:
We have been to some amazing sit-down dinner receptions that cost a great deal, and were very classy. They truly made each guest feel part of a wonderful celebration of the couple’s love and new eternal union. We have also been to receptions in the cultural hall that made us feel the same.
In the end, that’s all I’m asking for. I don’t really care about the reception itself, it’s the atmosphere. One of my favorite receptions was very informal (right Brendo?) it was very close, very relaxed, and very fun.
In the end, I have my opinions, and I guess everyone has there opinion.
That’s what makes this life so fun.
Oh, and the nice gooey cookie dough doesn’t hurt either.
Or carmel popcorn.
Or peanut brittle.
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