(Thanks RedVsBlue.com and Sluggy Freelance for the quote and Comic).
I know I will probably get some hate mail for title of this entry. People, it’s a joke. I think.
If you haven’t noticed, this blog has gone all over the place. I started off talking about loosing weight. It has turned into part Movie Review, part sad attempts at humor, part Pop Culture black hole, part photo blog, and part dating blog (oh, and part “What the heck are girls thinking blog).
I haven’t said a lot of my dating life lately. I keep that pretty close to myself. I am still trying to decide if I want to keep it that way. I am fine with talking about the basics though.
*Warning, this is all Latter-Day Saint related blogging, if you aren’t a member, you may become very bored. Who am I kidding, if you are a member, you will probably be very bored.*
Today in Elders Quorum we were talking about Preparing for an Eternal Marriage and Family. In a singles branch, this could have gone bad. Our branch though, has had some success in the marriage category. In the last two months, we have had three marriages with another two coming up.
It was interesting for me to listen to these men. I’ve been browsing the blog-o-sphere. There are some women who have been complaining (I’m calling it like I see it) about the men and their calibre of character thru their blogs. You can check out some member girls posting (Mary, Kelly, Miss Nemesis, and a LdsLinkup Discussion)
As I was in the class, these Elders came up with their ideal of a Girl/Wife.
Girl/Wife
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- Testimony
- Communication
- Attractive
- Member/Faithful
- Skills (I suppose Nu-chuck skills?)
- Patience
- Sense of Humor
- Self Control
- Tolerable Family
Followed by what we need to have ourselves
Husbands
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- Testimony
- Worthy Priesthood
- Provider
From there it devolved into a discussion about how we needed to have the same virtues that we wanted in a mate.
This was a group of about twenty men, discussing this. We went over time talking about this. I can tell you, it’s something the guys think about a lot.
It’s something I don’t know that some of the girls realize we do (while they sit in Relief Society planning on how to best confuse guys, or complaining about how we all ignore them).
I liked it. It was not of the variety of discussion where a married says
“You! Single Mormon Man! You should be married now! Is there something wrong with you? Do you not know how to propose to a girl!?”
You think I kid? I don’t. Bless their married hearts, but too many married people in the church feel that it’s ok to belittle a man because of his maritial status.
Why is this ok?
Anyways, back to the EQ discussion. I have to agree with a lot of those qualities. I do think I’d collapse down a few of on the list.
Oh, and I, and I believe most of my male counterparts, will decide if they are attracted enough to persue a serious relationship with a girl within the first minutes of meeting said girl.
What makes up that attraction? It varies from man to man. I can’t point out any one thing that is the same with the girls I am attracted to, there will just be something that draws my attention.
There are a few things I find that draw my attention, but I’ll keep that list hidden, because, well, a guy has to have some secrets.
I’d say that a girls overall attractiveness is a combination of the list above, as well as how physically attracted I am.
One of the sad things I’ve found in the church is that casual dating has all but died for the most part.
The pressure is so strong that men will not even think of dating a girl that they are not 100% crushed on, just because it becomes a big deal (with the girl, with the ward, etc) if they go on one date.
This is ridiculous. I feel that it takes at least 2-3 dates for both the Man and Woman to decide if they want to persue the relationship any further (if one side hasn’t made huge blunders in the first place).
How’s this going to fix itself? I don’t know? I’d be a GA if I did. Do I even know what I’m writing about anymore? No. Will I quit editing this entry before 1 AM, I don’t think so.
Bottom Line.
Cut the guys some slack, we are trying to make it through the world, just like you.
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